Review: Ottessa Moshfegh’s ‘My Year of Rest and Relaxation’

★★★★☆

I’ll start by saying that this was a fantastic read.

My Year of Rest and Relaxation is an acidic book, laced with so much sarcastic, bitter humour that it almost set my teeth on edge. The premise is simple. It is the year 2000, Upper Manhattan. A nameless young woman narrates her attempt to find spiritual rebirth by sleeping off her demons for an entire year.

Though we never know her name, she is a distinctive protagonist. She is a model-thin natural blonde WASP, too rich to worry about money, but also a hollowed out wreck of a person, so disassociated from her emotions and the world that it is difficult to view her privilege as anything meaningful.

The thing I really liked about this book is that there are so many ways to read it. On one level, it is a dark comedy dressed up as chick lit. On another, it is a painful journey through a young woman’s tortured soul. It is a story about a toxic, complicated friendship, a satire on privilege and the art world, and also a philosophical exploration of all the problems money can fix, as well as those it can’t.

Whenever I woke up, night or day, I’d shuffle through the bright marble foyer of my building and go up the block and around the corner where there was a bodega that never closed. I’d get two large coffees with cream and six sugars each, chug the first one in the elevator on the way back up to my apartment, then sip the second one slowly while I watched movies and ate animal crackers and took trazodone and Ambien and Nembutal until I fell asleep again.

It is really easy to read, but there is surprising depth when you look for it. The narrator’s deadpan voice sometimes has the effect of glazing over how shocking the narrative is, but I think this is on purpose – it gives the reading experience parallels with the protagonist’s journey.

The tone pulls you under, but every so often I would kind of snap out of the book, like a sudden awakening, realise how grotesque the whole thing was, before diving back into the oblivion the protagonist spends her year navigating.

Rest and Relaxation is an ugly book. The humour is like a thick cake of makeup on bad acne. The barbed sarcasm actually draws attention to that which the character uses it to hide. I thought this was clever writing, and I liked that this book was about someone with serious flaws. The selfishness is ugly, and so is the sadistic way in which the narrator uses her best friend (and allows herself to be used in return). I think it’s meant to be vicious though. This isn’t a feel-good book about an upstanding person trying to get through their trauma without hurting anyone. Although it brims with the frivolousness of a life with too much money, it is, under that veneer, a cutting story about a person dismissing the pretensions of morality in a dogged effort to survive.

Reva scratched an itch that, on my own, I couldn’t reach. Watching her take what was deep and real and painful and ruin it by expressing it with such trite precision gave me reason to think that Reva was an idiot, and therefore I could discount her pain, and with it, mine.

I was gripped, and though I got through this book at record pace, it left my brain with a lot to chew on. I would agree it is problematic and provocative, even insensitive, but I think that is what makes it so good. The protagonist is a top-notch antihero – she gives the reader every reason to despise her, but somehow I just couldn’t. Definitely not the kind of person I would want as my friend, but a character whose poison makes them interesting, a bit like Charlize Theron in the movie Young Adult.

I probably would have given this one the full five stars, but having slept on it, I’m not sure about the ending. There is an odd little epilogue that takes the final page on a jarring handbrake turn. It just didn’t seem to flow on naturally from the rest of the book, and I couldn’t work it out.

Overall though, I really rate this one. It has teeth, it is intelligent, and it is a fascinatingly warped story of growth. Whether our narrator is a better person by the end is debatable, but she and her world have changed.

Songs for Writing: September 2019

It’s been a while, and I’ve been busy. I’m still working a lot, but I made some time for some travels. I went to India to meet some more of N’s family a few weeks ago, and when I’ve mustered up the will to write, I want to write about it.

Easing in gently – my creative juices are running a bit dry lately – here are some songs to write to.

1. Black Match – ‘Same Old Things’

This one bobbed to the surface in my suggestions. A male singer, but I do think the sound is similar to Of Monsters and Men. I think it’s a good song for long journeys, and for writing that window in a story when characters are trying to rebuild themselves.

2. MS Mr – ‘Hurricane’

A bit of a throwback here. The human brain is a marvellous thing. I think there is something fascinating about the way we can forget, and then be triggered to remember. I don’t know what provoked me to remember this song, which I had long forgotten about, but I’m glad it came back to me.

3. Dami Im – ‘I Won’t Last a Day Without You’ (Cover)

What is your music taste like, Deanna? Basically, a charity shop. All manner of things can be found there. Including, it seems, covers of cute, cheesy songs originally by The Carpenters. Sometimes a piece of music just makes you smile.

4. Sophie Ellis-Bextor – ‘Death of Love’

If I am ever even half as glamorous and sophisticated as Sophie Ellis-Bextor, I can die happy. As with many of her songs, there is a bittersweet quality to this song beneath the pop exterior. I love it.

5. Dave Thomas Junior ‘ ‘I Can’t Make You Love Me’

Oh, heartbreak. Nothing is keener, or worse. But it is the birthplace of many a piece of art, and I do believe that the worst things do sometimes bring us to our best selves. Mellow, but dramatic, this is a good song for writing doomed lovers, for the fleeting moments of tenderness before the terrible storms.

Right, my lovely readers. I’m going to leave it there. And I’ll be back soon. My manic schedule is really flooring me at the moment, but I know I will be happier when I am writing again, so that’s what I intend to do.

Songs for Writing: August 2019

Time for some tunes. And yes, I know my output this month has been poetry to excess. Not even my best poetry, if I’m being honest, but writing in general this month has been a push.

In 364 days I will, by this time, be married, and living again with the love of my life. At the moment I work six days a week to meet the minimum income threshold for visa sponsorship (his earnings are not counted), and it is proving to be one of the less wondrous eras of my life.

But I’ve been doing this for a while now, and there have been times when I’ve felt more together, so I’m hoping to claw my way to back onto an upward course soon. Writing certainly helps, and though I do have to force myself at times, I am always glad, and happier, when I have new words on the page.

Here are my latest finds for inspiration.

1. Harrison Storm – ‘Run’

This one is best listened to during a rainy walk home. I like the lazy pace of it, and the mellowness tinged bittersweet. A good song for when you need a little something in the background, but not something that drags you into it.

2. AURORA – ‘Soulless Creatures’

She’s a bit of a regular on my song posts, this Norwegian wonder woman. I find it so inspiring that she’s a year younger than me. Proof that you can do good work when you are not everything you will be – something the perfectionist in me needs to remember.

As Aurora’s songs often are, this one is a little sad and a little sweet.

3. ‘Run Free’ – Hans Zimmer from Spirit: Stallion of the Cimarron

And this last one comes from what was, hands down, my favourite childhood film. I used to watch it on repeat, and even as an adult I still really appreciate the themes and the amazing soundtrack. The vocals by Bryan Adams are also fantastic, but this one I think best captures the fight for freedom the film centres around.

I will leave it there for now, save to say happy writing to my writing readers ❤

Songs for Writing: August 2019

And I’m back! My month ‘off’ was, it turned out, very much an actual month off, but I’m hoping to go for gold this August, and push my writing through into September.

There are some exciting things on the horizon – I’m going to India again, and toying with a PhD application. I really want to invest some time in my novel this month, and my ever-growing ‘to read’ pile is at such a risk of an overflow that I’m going to have to get some pages turning.

Let’s start this easy though. Here are some songs I’m going to use to get words out and down on the paper.

1. CASHFORDCOLD & Tim Schaufert – ‘Wherever You Go’

A nice bit of graphic art for you there, but fanart aside, this song struck me as eerie. Ideal for misty forests, abandoned cemeteries and sad vampires. I lost my way a bit with Palladine, I feel – my plots are almost always something I discover by writing them – but I’m feeling kinder again now, and hope to give my girl some love this month.

2. Sasha Sloan – ‘Dancing With Your Ghost’

A melancholy piano opening is, I think, one of life’s pure pleasures. Another unhappy song, but in an odd way, I think this one is quite uplifting.

3. Shawn Mendes & Camila Cabello – ‘Señorita’

I’m taking Zumba classes with my mum at the moment (because a desk job is that sedentary lifestyle we’re always getting told to avoid). If I’m honest, it is definitely a layer of hell. A specific dance hell which serves to nettle my insecurities, but I’ve definitely achieved an extra level of fitness since going regularly.

This is the cool down song at the end of each session, so I’m coming to associate it with a sense of achievement.

4. Florence + The Machine – ‘South London Forever’

And a happier song to finish. God, but I want to see Florence Welch perform live! One day, one day. This is another lovely piece from her latest album, which is, I think, my favourite.

No more songs, but that’s a start. I’ll be back to blog again tomorrow! 🙂

More Songs for Writing

Whether you need a soundtrack to get you writing, or a song to get you through this burning swamp of a summer, there is always more space on the playlist.

I have had almost no time this past month. In all seriousness, my friends have probably sent out search parties. I miss them, and in the same way I miss my characters. My goal for the rest of the summer is to get back into my big projects. My fantasy saga, for one thing. Much as I’m enjoying the journey with Palladine, it has been an age since I made some time for those older, more beloved characters who I have always had a story waiting for.

In general, I think it’s time to give the things that make me happy a bit more focus. So here are some songs that will keep me writing.

  1. Gryffin (Feat. Katie Pearlman) – ‘Nobody Compares To You’

Summer is the season for long drives, open windows and a bit of a disco flavour. I have been listening to this one on repeat during my walk back from work.

2. Imogen Heap – ‘The Quiet’

A singer who can do no wrong is a rare bird. So rare that I’m not sure they exist, but Imogen Heap has got to be something close. I always admire her ability to capture the minutiae of a moment, and her stunning lyrics.

3. Amber Mark – ‘Journey Into The Unknown’

Deeply atmospheric, and a little bit creepy. This is a song for dark forests and spiritual awakenings. Amber Mark is a new discovery for me, but if the rest of her music is anything like this, I believe I’ve struck gold.

4. Skott – ‘Wolf’

Skott’s music is always very distinctive. I find her voice haunting, and this is, I think, one of her better songs. Powerful and sad, but also delicate and inspiring. A song for hunters and the hunted.

That’s it for today. Almost at the end of another one month blogging streak, and I am tired. But just a few days left now, and who knows? Maybe I’ll come to my second wind.

More Songs For Writing

A bit of a close one when it came to getting a post written today, but so far I’m holding firm with my streak of daily blogging, and I mean for it to continue.

I am hoping to make some more progress with Palladine in the coming days, so no doubt I will need some music to get me in the right frame of mind.

Here are my latest finds.

1. Alec Benjamin – ‘Must Have Been The Wind’

I seem to gravitate towards female voices, more often than not, as a simple matter of preference, but I was quite struck by the boyishness of this singer’s voice. A simple song, but just the right mix of sweet and sad.

2. UMI – ‘Butterfly’

Oh, but the best songs are always the self-aware, sad ones. I don’t like angst or melodrama, because to me, sadness is subtle and clinging. It’s a lonely, sighing feeling, and I think this song captures that better than many.

3. Johnny Balik – ‘Honey’

This one just sounds like summer. It makes me want to slide my feet around on the decking, slow dance and drink something sweet. Definitely one I will be listening to when we get the good weather, or to make a rainy day feel better.

4. Florence + The Machine – ‘Moderation’

And after all that mellowness, here’s one to wake you up. My tastes shift and change, but Florence has been one of my favourite singers since Lungs. So witchy and ritualistic and powerful, but always vulnerable. I love her.

Disneyland & Ducklings

Ah, but there is no summer quite like the Parisian summer. Sweaty, smelly and blistering, but also a season for sitting on one of the many restaurant terraces with a glass of white wine, or mojito.

The casual people-watcher can spot the fashionistas in their designer summer dresses, the children already tanned gold, the cooing pigeons and the tourists. Paris is a city for walking, and since most of the metro lines are positively sulfuric in the heat, everyone is out on the street, seeing and being seen.

I love it. And I had forgotten how much.

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What a joy to be back! Just a short visit, but I returned to Paris for the weekend, to visit N, who is ploughing through the final leg of his PhD. After a romantic year together living in the green Parisian suburbs, our times together are at the moment fleeting snatches of days and hours. They are times that have to be made the most of.

So we did. Off the plane and into the city, we went for an early lunch in one of the Chinese restaurants scattered about St-Michel. They are inexpensive, but our tradition. Our favourite is on the first floor and overlooks a crossroads – a good place to observe the world passing by without suffering the waves of car fumes and city dust.

I consumed Paris voraciously in my first few months there, and since N has lived in the city on and off for the past six years, it’s safe to see we’ve seen a lot of what there is to see. But the lovely thing about Paris is that there is always more to take in. And new ways to take it in, for that matter.

Download the ‘Dott’ app (‘Lime’ is also popular), and for a euro you can unlock one of the many motorised scooters dotted about the city. They cost 15 cents per minute, and coast along at a pace to match most of the traffic. On sunny days, when the walking is an ask, but you still want to see it all, these scooters make it possible.

And the best bit is that after zooming about, snapping the sights with the wind in your hair, you can finish the ride and leave the scooter anywhere in the city. No frantic hunting for an allocated parking bay or a charger. We did not have the time to go everywhere, but next time I visit Paris I am definitely taking one of these bad boys out for another spin!

Suddenly, Saturday over. We headed back to the house. My old house, and still, in the romantic depths of my heart, something like my home.

Homemade crêpes, movie, and then bed, because on Sunday we had an early start. To get to Disneyland from Paris you have to take the RER ligne A to Marne-la-Vallée. From the southwest suburbs, it’s an hour-and-a-half, but the station is just steps away from the front gates.

I’ve been to Disneyland once before, but I was only ten at the time, so I was excited to see what had changed, and what I would remember. With tickets for both parks, we knew it was going to be a full-on day if we were to have a chance of going on all the rides, so we arrived for opening time, and jumped immediately into our first queue – for the strange (and I think slightly out of place) Aerosmith ride in the Studio park.

It was wild, but I think the scariest ride for me was the Hollywood Hotel Tower of Terror, which really made me scream. We faced some long queues in the Studio park, though we managed to go on most of the main attractions – I also really liked the Crush Coaster.

Overall, I think I preferred the actual Disneyland Park, just because there were more rides to go on. I think the number of rides thinned the crowds into more reasonable waiting times, but fortunately all the rides in both parks have a queuing time estimate at the entrance, so at least you know if you’re going to be waiting for an hour.

High points of the Disneyland park were Hyperspace Mountain – very immersive and a definite must for any Star Wars fan – and Big Thunder Mountain (not so thrilling if you’re a grown-up, but impressive). We even saw a duck with her octuplet brood. The park was extremely clean – a good nesting spot for birds, the wannabe naturalist in me notes, since this means it is likely not home to many rats.

I was a bit disappointed that the Pirates of the Caribbean ride was closed – this is the only water ride and the heat was Moroccan – but we consoled ourselves with ice creams instead. A point worth mentioning is the food in general, which was decent, as far as theme park food goes. It was basic, but it was not as cheap or rubbish as I was expecting. I had fish and chips for dinner, and N the ribs. Overpriced, but not awful.

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We nipped back into the Studio Park to go on the Ratatouille ride, which uses 3-D technology in an inventive way, and managed to squeeze in the Toy Story rides before it was time to head home, cramming onto the first train back to Paris after closing time, together with a squash of families and teenagers in Minnie Mouse ears.

Home and sleep. It was one of the best dates I’ve been on – lots of laughs, and to be honest if you can’t have a nice time at Disneyland where can you?

And then today. A lazy morning, into Paris for lunch, and then a stroll by Notre-Dame, clad in scaffolding, and ringed by an ugly military-style fence, complete with barbed wire. It was a depressing sight up close, but from the park the cathedral still impresses. There are various rumours circulating about what the reconstruction plans will be, from a competition to design a new spire to a rooftop pool, but what will actually happen remains to be seen.

Summer sun, holding hands, and watching the tourists mill about under the blue blue sky, it was just perfect, but sad. I will not see N in the flesh for more than a month again now, but this is one of our shorter separation periods, and the trip reminded me, if I needed reminding, that I am still very much in love. We will make it work, for the year that remains, and then he’ll be here, in the UK, and we can do all those normal, wonderful things like get married, put down a mortgage, and go out on the weekends.

 

Songs for Writing: June 2019

Guess who’s off to Paris for the weekend? By the time you read this I’ll be gone from the country, back to the old house where I lived a year or so. It already feels like so long ago, but if there’s one thing Paris gave me, it was the conviction that all I really to do is write, and write, and write.

As those who have been here for a while know, I often write to music. Here are my latest inspirations.

1. Kiana Ledé – ‘EX’

I do not believe that people should listen to one kind of music. Or even two. In fact I think the more variation there is in the music we listen to, the more it gives us. For that reason I’ve been branching into R&B. This mellow tune has been helping me to relax (something I need to do more often). I do think I do my best work as a writer when I’m under the most stress, but also my worst. When I relax, I’m much more consistent.

2. London Grammar – ‘Metal & Dust’

Told you I love this band. Another good ‘un. I do get a bit fed up of repetitive choruses, but sometimes the best musical experience is being pulled into a trance-like state. I have been trying to pull more out from my subconscious lately, especially when it comes to poetry, and songs like this have been a big help.

3. ‘Ouro’ Soundtrack

Shorts on YouTube are kind of my guilty pleasure. Not only is this one of my favourites visually, but that soundtrack! It is mightily eighties (not at all a bad thing), but also really dark. It gives me an idea for an old project which I very much want to return to.

4. Frank Turner – ‘Get Better’

And to finish, in a rather sharp contrast to the previous song, a bit of Frank Turner. Despite how upbeat most of his songs are, I always think he conveys the rawness of emotional pain very convincingly. And this particular song never fails to remind me of the night my best friend and I went to London to see him live, and screamed this song as though it was our last night on earth.

I’ve scheduled something in for tomorrow, but I’ll be back to do a post about Paris on Monday. À bientôt!

Top Five Poems

Given my own surprising output of poetry in the last year or two, I consider it only fitting that I give up the ghost and admit it. I like poems. Here is the shortlist of my favourites.

1. The Highwayman – Alfred Noyes

I remember the first time I heard this poem. I was eleven, and in the early weeks of secondary school. My teacher played the version sung by the wonderful Loreena McKennitt, and I was swept away. The atmosphere and romance of this poem have never left me.

The wind was a torrent of darkness among the gusty trees.   
The moon was a ghostly galleon tossed upon cloudy seas.   
The road was a ribbon of moonlight over the purple moor,   
And the highwayman came riding—
         Riding—riding—
The highwayman came riding, up to the old inn-door.

2. The Canonization – John Donne

Ah, to be loved as John Donne’s wife was loved. I’m often rather scornful of love poems (I feel I must hide what a sop I am at heart), but this one feels more genuine than the rest. The opening line is an incarnation of all star-crossed lovers. For all that this is an old poem, I think it is timeless.

For God’s sake hold your tongue, and let me love…

3. The Babysitters – Sylvia Plath

Maybe an odd choice, since this is probably not one of Plath’s most famous poems, but I love its bittersweet portrayal of female friendship. I remember sitting in class chewing the end of my pen whilst studying its semantics, but I think I came to understand it better when I did nanny work myself.

That summer we wore black glasses to hide our eyes.
We were always crying, in our spare rooms, little put-upon sisters,
In the two, huge, white, handsome houses in Swampscott.

4. The Lament of the Excavator – Pier Paolo Pasolini

I really wish I knew where I found this one, but I love it. It’s quite a long poem, but the feeling it conveys seems almost spiritual to me.

It is only loving, only knowing that matters,
not having loved, not having known.
To live for a past love

makes for agony. 

5. The Cat and the Moon – W. B. Yeats

And this is probably a lighter poem than the rest, but one of my best friends sent it to me when we were young teenagers, so it has a feeling, for me, of innocent ignorance, and the softness of a quieter time.

Minnaloushe creeps through the grass
Alone, important and wise,
And lifts to the changing moon
His changing eyes.

You can find the full version of all these poems with a quick Google, and if you’ve a moment to leave your thoughts, I would love to read them 🙂

Summer Songs For Writing

Day three on this latest streak, and I’m still writing. The music is there of course, helping me make creative connections.

1. Betty Who – ‘Giving Me Away’

Summer nights are for cool drinks in the sunset, for pillowing your head on the grass, and dancing, or not dancing. This is a good song to soundtrack those dusky nonsense conversations you can only have with your very best friends.

2. London Grammar – ‘Wasting My Young Years’

At the moment I am still in the intense early stages of a love affair with this band. Song after song, I love that voice.

3. Seinabo Sey – ‘I Owe You Nothing’

I recently finished Assata Shakur’s autobiography, and this is a song that I think would make a suitable soundtrack. Like the book, this is a song about black power, which is something I want to learn more about. Assata made me realise that for all my education, I am politically uneducated, and that I’m capable of change.

4. Snoh Aalegra – ‘I Want You Around’

And here is a last note of romance. There is something very old school about this song that makes it perfect for summer evenings. It gives me a feeling of reading by a lamp with the hum of insects in the air.

I am hoping this will my most productive summer yet. PhD applications are on the horizon, and my wedding plans are gearing up a notch, but I’m going to make time for writing, because I have come to understand that it’s all I really want to do.

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